As I write this… I’m no longer 36. *a single tear streams down her resigned, still face*
Ah…36 – such a lovely number.
Now I’m a pokey, harsh, unwelcoming 37.
37…such an ugly number. A number not divisible by any other… alone. Old.
And definitely sliding dangerously close into the “late thirties.” Sigh…
But, I’m happy. Is it because I woke up to a bunch of Facebook “Happy Birthdays?” Yes. Ok, but not JUST that. (Oh, but let’s be honest… you don’t WANT those to matter because, after all, they’re just people who saw your name pop up in their newsfeed and threw out a simple two word phrase… perhaps even out of obligation or to avoid guilt. But,try as you might, you can’t help feelin’ the love when you scroll through the list of people who’ve taken the time – even if just a moment – to acknowledge you… feels good.)
No, I’m happy because – despite the world being full of disappointment (i.e. the bulk of my experience in online dating), I somehow have hope. I’m not going to use this post to explain how or why I still do – I’m saving that for a longer write-up.
But, what I do know is – the world of online dating, though it has brought it’s fair share of smh moments and fist pumps, has also brought some of the most amazing people into my life.
Tomorrow night I’m hosting a party – (and yes – if you live in the Houston area, you are WELCOME to come!) – and at least 60% of the people coming out to celebrate my birthday with me, are friends with me because of online dating. They’re either men I’ve met and befriended, after we realized we weren’t romantically matched, or women I’ve met at social functions sponsored by Match.com and others, or friends OF those friends who I wouldn’t otherwise know.
In the last year, these friends and I have done all of this and more together:
– mafia/20’s gangster themed birthday party
– luau with a whole pig
– game nights
– family dinners
– pub trivia
– dancing …SO much dancing!
– foodie exploration
– toga pub crawl
– housewarming parties
– Houston beer fest
– crawfish boil
– trampoline dodgeball
– family Christmas party
– speed-dating event
– beach days
– trip to Austin
– comedy shows
– nerf gun war
The ‘ol interwebs may not have brought me the love of my life …yet.
But it HAS brought me some of the dearest friendships I’ve ever known. These are people who love me, love my kids, and have filled in as my second family. And I’m so thankful!
So today, on a day that merits some reflection and gratitude… I’m happy to report that I’m happy.
That… though I think 37 may be the ugliest number of them all (c’mon…it really is…right?),
I am a woman blessed with the sweetest community.
Happy Birthday to me.